When you are betrayed by the person you have trusted for so long, it simply makes you cry. You cry like a baby whose mother went shopping. In fact, it does more than that. It breaks your heart and makes you more suspicious. You just don’t know whom to trust anymore. And if what the person did was more than betraying, you can imagine how heartbroken you can be.
All of this was what happen to me the past couple of weeks. One hurt after another came tumbling in from the person I trusted, loved and respected. “Am I so stupid and blind?” was the first question that came to my mind. When the act got under my skin after a while, it burnt me like a furnace. “Why, why, why?”
Then two more days later, I started to think more clearly and stopped reacting to what has been done to me and started to act consciously. I did things that were difficult to do but very rewarding. The actions that I took filled me with the peace I badly needed. It was at this moment that I took note of the lessons I learnt:
1. Don’t open your heart too widely to anyone.
2. Ask advice from people that you trust.
3. Remember there is always some risk to this.
4. Be willing to take the risk.
5. Don’t panic and react to a tough situation.
6. Take the time to be away from the hot spot, if not physically, mentally.
7. Do good to the one who hurts you.
8. Trust people.
9. But don’t let people play with you the way they want.
10. Mark your boundaries very clearly.
