RESPECT-What Is It?

I remember posting about respect. I'm back at it. It's quite clear to me that this is important to me, I mean being respected. I'd like to share my feelings and thoughts about being respected from a different perspective tonight.
Yes, like any human being I'd like to be respected. However, I don't seem to command respect from others. I'm fully responsible for it. If others don't see me worthy of their respect, then it's all my fault. This is not what I want to write about though.
What I want to write about is my 'obsession' to be respected. Obsession might be quite a strong word. But I'll leave it .Why do I seek respect? Why don't I say, 'To hell with other people's judgement?' And that's exactly what I've decided to do from this moment on wards. I thought about it for some minutes and the futility of being disturbed by other people's opinion of me dawned on me as it has never done before. I'm focusing on the wrong end of the stick.
I've been disturbed by other's opinion of me, perhaps, because of lack of self-esteem. May be I didn't see myself as worthy of respect. As everybody knows the world treats you as you expect to be treated. That has changed now. I feel differently about myself. I've immense pride in who I am, or at least, I desire to. And it's a real desire.
So to hell with what other's think of me. I don't REALLY CARE! Let me just be worthy of my own respect. Let me live my life the way I know is worthy of me. People will always judge me. The question is whether I agree with their judgement or not. If I know who I am, their judgement is a farce. It's no point.
Secondly, it's far more important to focus whether I respect and treat others the way I want to be treated. This is the Golden Rule or The St Francis Rule. (I just made up this name now to refer to his famous prayer.)
Now, my yoke is light. I'm care free. People you've all the right to judge and lable me. I don't give a rat's ass.